Imagine your child was passed over for a part in a play at school that you feel he would be perfect for. You know he had the lines memorized, that he basically embodied the essence of the character, and that there is no way that anyone trying out could do a better job than he did.
Quick, what would you do?
If your first thought was that you would march up to the drama teacher and give her a piece of your mind, or that you would speak with the school principal and try to get him the part anyway, then you need to take a breath.
We are so quick to rush in and try to fix all of life’s hiccups for our kids. When we go over people’s heads, when we bargain and complain and act rudely when our kids have been “done wrong,” we are teaching them a terribly bad habit.
It would be better, on casting day, to pat your son on the back, commend him for doing the best job that he could do, and encourage him to try again next time. Because, let’s all say it together:
Life’s not fair.
And, the sooner our kids realize that disappointments will come, that things don’t always go their way, the better off they will be. Rushing in to try and force good fortune for our kids leads to feelings of entitlement in our children, and that is one of the worst attitudes to get over once it has a hold on you. Our kids will fail sometimes. People will miss their greatness sometimes. But, Jesus’ greatness was missed, too. And the injustice He suffered was like no other.
We can teach our kids how to deal with disappointments humbly and graciously. In fact, the Bible says that a little injustice can be good for us:
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James1:2-4
~ Melissa Edgington; yourmomhasablog.com